Since the last few weeks has been filled with smart advice from my brilliant Guesties and this popped into my mailbox on wednesday morning, I felt like it was 'meant to be'. So I am sharing it with you, my beloved SGET readers. In true SmoothieGirl fashion, I'm adding my 2-cents and a health & fitness spin as well in green.
Excellent Tips for Living that My Parents Gave Me...from Gretchin Rubin
(Deb's note: I shortened it a bit...to see her original post, click here)
"Every Wednesday is Tip Day at The Happiness Project.
This Wednesday: Eight excellent tips for living my parents gave me."
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"Stay calm"
Deb's take: don't panic at the disco, or the buffet. Take deep breaths and make smart choices. In yoga, holding difficult positions requires calm and deep breathing. This also applies to life in general. Try it.
“The things that go wrong often make the best memories.”
Deb's take: You may not remember that perfect Thanksgiving Meal from 2004, but you will remember when the turkey burned to a crisp on Thanksgiving 2005 and you had to go out for Turkey Burritos instead. Try to laugh it off. Is it ever really that bad?

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"You like to have a few things that you really like, instead of lots of choices."
Deb's take: Very true with menus and food choices. Huge menus can overwhelm, especially if you are in an indecisive mood (brekkie or lunch; savory or sweet?). Sometimes it's nice to be given just a few selections... then your little brain doesn't spew smoke from having too much choice. Dad and I have expressed relief when handed a very simple menu. This really does only work if you can be flexible with your diet and don't have too many food restrictions or sensitivities.
"Be grateful, because you worked hard for what you got, and you deserved it, but others also worked hard, and people don’t always get what they deserve.”
Deb's take: Yup, you can diet your little brain out and do cardio til the cows come home, but not lose a pound. Or you can eat clean and still have high-cholesterol. Sometimes life sucks like that. Lesson learned: try hard and do your absolute best. That is the most we can ever ask of ourselves. If something isn't working, change it- do weights, change your diet a bit...see if changes help. And realize that the world still isn't always fair.
--“If you’re willing to take the blame, people will give you the responsibility.”
Deb's take: We all make mistakes, no matter how old or young. If we own up to them, at least we get the respect for being honest- with ourselves and others.
--“Enjoy the process.”
Deb's take: Goals are terrific, but you will definitely get more out of life if you enjoy the steps it takes to reach those goals. Try to enjoy cooking a healthy meal, or that Bootcamp class you are about to take. If you don't dread things that you need to do, life is better.
--“All you have to do is put on your running shoes and let the front door shut behind you.”
Deb's take: I do agree with this, but balance is key. As someone always striving to achieve a sense of balance and normalcy, I know that some days my body doesn't want to do a darn thing. Other days, you couldn't hold me back if you tried. Listen to your body. I TRY to listen to mine.
(yes, this is where the SmoothieMoving Magic starts) :-D Love my squeaky sneaks- they actually squeak so people giggle as I walk past! Oh well, they are comfy!
Finally, Gretchin's advice about relationships...
--My mother said: “In a relationship, it’s important that a person is kind, because eventually, if he’s not kind to other people, he won’t be kind to you.”
--My father said: “In a relationship, it’s important that a person be able to have fun, because you’re not going to have a happy life with someone who can’t have fun.”
Deb's take: who can argue with that!?
Tomorrow I will give you my spin on how to enjoy a vacation and not destroy your healthy-living lifestyle...
Do you guys find that happiness comes naturally or do you need to "work" at it? Have you ever read The Happiness Project? Are there any Non-guesties who have some great pieces of advice to share with SGET readers??
13 comments:
Love that relationship advice! Now if only I can remember it when I'm actually in a relationship...
Love this! I especially like the few choices one. I feel like I'm drowning when I'm given too many options. But give me a choice between two things and I can pick in a second. Relationship advice is great too!
This post was a great way to start the week, as I'm just looking to get through this one (guess that answers the "naturally happy?" question, eh?)
I loved all the advice from your guest posts, as every person has something so unique to offer. I hate not having my own options with things, but given too many I freak out. Balance...
Nice article w/ Deb spin thrown in.
Recap that you were "late" on in commenting of mine...to answer your question, no that hadnt just hit G'Reader, it had been there about 12 hrs when you commented.
Yoga today-glad I showed you a new pose!
You are a freakin early bird, I will say that from your comment post time to my blog.
See I am taking care of our little Q & A sesh this way :)
Naturally happy however I have a super snide and irreverent sense of humor which could make it look like I wasnt happy. No, I am happy. It's just that I am not a Mary Poppins either so nothing is too sugar coated :)
Sometimes I am optimistic but I am also a worry wart...so who knows. I do agree with remember the things that are not perfect. I still laugh that my father stepped on my veil as he gave me away to my husband and my whole head snapped back with the veil.
I've subscribed to THP for a few months now.
Love the bits of advice! Esp. the one about things going wrong giving the best memories!
Looking forward to your vacay post as I will be in NYC next week and then off to the UK mid-Nov. I could really use lots of tips :-)
I think when we are good to ourselves (like in the things we do, the people we surround ourselves with, the way we eat, the way we push ourselves, etc) happiness comes naturally.
When I look back, it is during the above circumstances when I am most happy. The trick is finding the balance to make that happiness life long!
thanks for spreading the good advice! i loved how you attached your take on everything. thanks for the reminder to try hard and do our best! xo
I have not heard of THP, but I think I need to get acquainted with it! I can improve on so many of the tips here. Deb, you are so wise :) I have much to learn from you!
Ha Lara- I'm not wise- I suck wisdom from others much wiser than myself! Or I steal their posts :-)
Erika- hilarious about your veil!!
This is such an excellent post Deb and I agree with you (and your dad!) about everything. YOu have a good take on it all...esp. the relationship part. :) Oh and I can totally relate to having too many choices on a menu. At first I think, "PHEW! I'm not limited.." but then I immediately feel overwhelmed and don't know what to decide on!
I'm pretty happy for the most part...as long as the sun is shining. :)
Great advice Deb. Trying to listen to my body as well, and did you really end up eating turkey burritos on Thanksgiving? Ha, I love it!
P.S. - Do not like overwhelming menus. Cheesecake Factory totally stresses me out!
HEabs- yes, had turkey burritos one year we were skiing in Mammoth on TG. It wasn't because we burnt the turkey- it's because we were you and with my Dad and he wasn't about to cook turkey dinner for two little kids- so we went out for turkey burritos :-) If I recall they were REALLLLLLY good! :-D
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